Do We Need Valentine's Day?

Sunday, 15 February 2009 15:22 by Sreejay S
Valentine's Day is over. Lovers loved, expressed their love, exchanged Valentines and in India, got beaten up for their pains.

I have two questions. First, is Valentine's Day necessary, especially in India? Second, why is love against our culture?

Let us take the first question first.

Valentine's Day is celebrated in the name of a Catholic martyr, who expressed his love to his jailer's daughter, while waiting to be martyred... So it is assumed. And that is one of the reasons our Hindu moral brigade objects to it. They say it is a Western, and thus Christian, influence.

It is true that it is a Western import. As far as I know, it was only in the last decade that we have even started to pay attention to such a day in our calendar. And for that, let us blame the cards and gift industry, which has burgeoned into a monster by promoting all these so-called days. The next one in the pipeline is 'Toilet Day', I presume! (There really IS a World Toilet Day'!) You know, we could wish each other happy toilet trips?

Well, setting that aside, I strongly feel that this culture of celebrating Valentine's Day should be discouraged. I am sure people in love can find enough reasons and ways to celebrate their love than setting just one day aside for the purpose.

As for the objection to the day being a Christian phenomenon, that is not strictly true. Even the Catholic Church is not very enthusiastic about this Saint of love, who may or may not have existed. I think that we should let the day go by like we do the World Toilet Day (November 19, if you want to know).

Now to my second question. Why do our new-found enthusiasm for cultural mores make us shy away from love? Is it said any where that Hindus should not express love before marriage?

So, according to these people who would beat up those who show affection to each other, Abhijñānaśākuntalam of Kālidāsa is a sinful anti-Hindu treatise, is it?

I will not go into a rant about these unsavoury purveyors of pseudo Hinduism like I did in my previous post.

Just a little suggestion, why do we not take a suitable date in the calendar (I have no objection to February 14) and declare it Vātsyāyana day? Of course, there would be a danger that this will lead to more than love on that day!

Please remember, ours is a culture that was willing to respect the abhisarika as well as the pativrata. Let us not restrict our women inside narrow male defined confines. Why am I saying this here? It is obvious, when you observe the moral police in action, that they are more interested in pawing the girl or woman in question, while beating up the man. They are in it for their own sexual frustrations than any moral considerations. Let us not empower them by acknowledging their existence.

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Comments

February 13. 2009 07:48

Suresh

From where the hell did we get valentine day. Dont the stupid indians know Love existed even before we knew greeks and romans?. The Most vulgur is the incest preached in the name of Love. How the Hell these youngsters in India know what is Valentine day ALL about. I got to tell my huble feeling that the press in india is thousand times worse than a whore becuase they are willing to sell anything to get the sales. Real shame.

Suresh

February 13. 2009 22:03

lsingh

See the paradox we did not celebrate valentine, but our population is going to be the highest. The Europeans and americans celebrated the valentine some of the countries have negative or zero growth. We did not celebrate valentine our family unit remained intact( Not sure about future as we start imitating)their family units collapsed. We did not celebrate valentine we used to take care of our loved ones and children and parents.Whereas in western countries children were lucky if they had both parents together or did not end up at the mercy of nursing home. We did not celebrate valentine we became educated, slogging hard with our books realizing knowledge is power, India and Indians became the knowledge and treasure for the world. This shows our love is daily, unconditional, has a purpose, has a goal.Donate the money to poor orphaned or children with AIDS rather then mallya buy airindia

lsingh

February 14. 2009 04:58

FreedomFighter

why is love against our culture?
:: You are asking a presumptuous, worng question. And then go on to make so many presumptuous baseless statements. You are not able to make the point you wanted to substantiate, namely we should or cannot live/love without Valentine's Day. You have hyperlinked Abhijnanana-sakuntalam of Kalidasa. How about kaama-sootra,kumaarasambhavam, ritusamhaara, and maybe the scultpture of a once isolted Konarka ? Everyone of these has a place, an audience, and above all, a message, which is not to be confused with arbitrary "love" for titillation for the moment and forgetting it, and going on for a repeat with someone else. It has become a fashion to pervert in the name of discussion. That is the style of our politics. We don't have to do so with dispassionate and unbiassed attempts to understand and look at both sides of a topic and debate. Thanks.

FreedomFighter

February 14. 2009 05:12

Pradeep

Press is becoming a even bigger danger than politics. Known devil is okay, unknown devil???
I think a trivial issue is blown out of proportion by Indian media (visual and press). Is it because many of them are owned by foreign companies.
They promote anything and everything.
They are against anything which was/is Indian.
I think this wouldnt be the case in anyother nation.
God save us.

Pradeep

February 15. 2009 17:41

avg

I still did not understand why some of our people shy away with love. Why do they forget that they are not sent from above.They are in this world as a result of some love,then why to blame love or a day(valentine to be precise) for all the mishaps.Accept what is true.Love is universal, and so will be the means to celebrate it.Doesn't matter whether it is a day, or a month or perhaps a (valentine) year.And for those who are skeptical about it- just keep your arse off it and mind your own business.
aVg

avg

February 16. 2009 05:52

XYZ

Ya,Valentine's day is nothing but a creation and Promotion of card & gift companies who keep inventing all kinds of days to mint money and people get fooled!I do celebrate the day when i met my lover and not Valentines day.If you ask EVERY DAY IS LOVE(ly) DAY for me and i express love to my partner all the time!I dont have to wait for feb 14th!

XYZ

February 16. 2009 06:03

rain

I am in the USA and people in the US didnt make a big deal about Valentines day but in India people went over board with this V-day !There are many more important issues to be handled very urgently than preventing the V-day or celebrating the V-day!Ram sena and Chaddi Sena totally disgraced Indian culture.

rain

February 16. 2009 07:24

XYZ

Valentines day is a promoted by Greeting card and gift companies to mint money and General public is getting fooled. For me the special day is the Day i met my Life Partner and i dont need to celebrate Valentin's DAY to express my love!if you ask me EVERY DAY IS LOVE(ly) DAY for me.

XYZ

February 16. 2009 19:23

Robin S

Kudos, Sreejay. More power to your pen!

Robin S

February 18. 2009 23:00

Sandhya Raju

Purely a marketing gimmick! We dont need a Valentine Day to express love nor a mother's day or father's day to show how much we love them and care for them.

And the media does over play on all these counts.

Sandhya Raju

February 19. 2009 03:29

partha

Valentine's day, if symbolized to express love, is fine and acceptable. If it demands giving out to love one self by making love making a happy chockolate, and if it involves our near and dear ones to be the hero and heroine, it is conditional. I say to say yes! we need it if we allow such love making in the name of love and I say to say no, if we dont allow that. As simple as that.

partha

February 23. 2009 04:16

Raja

Left to itself, valentine day might not have become so popular in India. The opposition and the hype created by the media have all made it so popular that we discuss it today. Let it be there for those who want it. Those who don't want it can forget it and get on with their duty. Who are we to say no to people who want it in an independent country? Let their parents say yes or no.

Raja

February 25. 2009 15:29

aja

The need of the hour is tolerance. Whether someone wants to celebrate Valentine's day or World Toilet day is really up to them and not to their neighbours and society in general. This hands-off approach can actually lead one to learn something new. Like, valentines are also made by children to express their affection to their teacher, mother, father, friends etc. and that world toilet day has been made to bring focus on the number of people in the world who do not have access to proper sanitation.
Cheers

aja

February 25. 2009 18:11

FreedomFighter

You write "As for the objection to the day being a Christian phenomenon, that is not strictly true. Even the Catholic Church is not very enthusiastic about this Saint of love, who may or may not have existed." Let us take the latter of these two sentences. Why the Catholic Church is not very enthusiastic ? IT is because the original intentions were desecrated as VD was used just as a ploy of several interested parties like businesses trying to sell their wares for young, and so on, by encouraging a free for all without any worthy purpose being achieved. Moreover, your statement ignores the fact that there are many days, with regional variations, where young women (not men, to my knowledge) pray for good husbands, and when the prayer comes true, traditional procedures are there to celebrate love from that point onwrds, climaxed in a well-consummated and workable marriage.

You see, it is not that we need to look at what is going on traditionally elsewhere - whether in pristine glory or in desanctified forms. For we do have many, many nice things to recommend to mankind, out of a stock of our own traditions to make life interesting, enjoyable, and spiritualized even during day in and day out materialistic pursuits - spiritualized, that is, by invoking God, call him by any name, depending on your religion, sect, etc.

FreedomFighter

March 28. 2009 08:49

007b2b

Kudos, Sreejay. More power to your pen!

007b2b

June 18. 2009 22:48

women and business

In a way, you are right. Valentine's Day has been made more into a commercial, money making holiday in the United States, and... well, frankly, it's just good for business... and business is good for the economy.
You are right in another way as well. People in love really shouldn't NEED to have a day to celebrate their love... or their birthdays... or the New Year... or any other major holiday marked on our calendars. However, for the sake of tradition and recognition, truly focused on one thing and one thing only - in this case love - it cannot be that bad. Do you disagree?
Some of you are taking such a negative approach to this argument. No, we as a people do not need it. Nonetheless, we do enjoy it. I don't know much about the Indian culture (even though I know many Indians), but Valentine's Day simply cannot promote negative feelings in a majority of people... because love doesn't. Isn't it basically one of the major components of our lives? Or even what we search for in life? Why must those who have found it not have a special day to celebrate specifically what they've been searching for? Smile

women and business

July 1. 2009 11:52

online dater

IMO, celebrating Valentines Day just depends on the people if they will be going to celebrate Valentines Day or not. In my part, I’d rather not because I consider everyday as Valentines Day in showing my love and appreciation to the persons I care for.
In this regards, respecting every other persons view and opinion should matters. For as long as they find enjoyment on it, why we take it from them. Respect is the main key.

online dater

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